Growing More Emotional

I’ve never been one of those guys who thought that crying is unmanly. Then again, I’ve never thought of myself as “Mr. Macho.” No one else has ever thought of me that way, either.

Nonetheless, I never used to be much of a cry-er. As a child, I recall crying twice, although I may have done it more often than that. Once was one of those very few times I received a spanking. The other was when my parents told me we were moving away from the town we’d lived in for the first eight years of my life.

If I cried as a teen or young adult, I don’t remember it.

Except in 1976 at the death of the baby my ex- and I had. Beth lived three days after her normal birth. If you want to read about that, I would refer you to Yesterday’s Blossoms.

As I started growing a bit older, I sometimes got teary at the end of a movie or of a very moving book.

But do you know what’s REALLY weird? I can’t believe I’m about to admit this publicly because some of you are going to think me completely unfeeling. But when my parents died–my father in 1993 and my  mother the following year?

I didn’t cry. I was sad, yes. But I knew they were in Heaven, and I couldn’t be but so sad about that. I would miss them, yes. But tears? For whatever reason, they just wouldn’t come.

Flash forward to reaching my fifties and now my sixties. Tearfulness comes at the least expected times.

Still from books and movies. But also when someone comes forward at church to make a profession of faith in Christ or gets baptized. Or while I’m paying a complete stranger a sincere compliment. Or  thanking someone for even the smallest of favors. Even when someone is thanking me for something. These examples don’t begin to scratch the teary surface.

Gracious! Some people might really think this new-found emotionality is a true sign of aging gracelessly. But–doggone it–I’m thankful I’m still able to feel. If anything, I wish this change had occurred years earlier.

Okay. Your turn now. Especially you guys. What’s your take on displaying your emotions? Please leave a comment to share your view.

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By the way, “On Aging Gracelessly” isn’t my only blog. I use “As I Come Singing”check it out here–to post lyrics of the Christian songs I’ve written over the last fifty years. Free lead sheets (tune, words, and chords) are available for many of them. Check here to see the list.

Best regards,
Roger

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Blatant Self-Promotion?

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If you’ve been following this blog for a while, you probably realize that I haven’t tried to sell you any of my novels. But that doesn’t mean I won’t share information about my writing, especially if it’s something new. Something I’m excited about.

Let’s back up a few years. Like from the 1970s until the early 2000s. I wrote a bunch of stuff. Songs. Poems. Short plays. A short story or two. Several short plays. A couple of dramatic monologues. Even an essay. And let’s not leave out all the articles I wrote for newsletters at the places where I worked.

A number of those things even got published. Some in a local newspaper. Some in a free local magazine. And some even made it into some Southern Baptist periodicals–for a small amount of money! Wow!

But when I started to focus on writing novels, which I’d never done before, I quit writing those other kinds of works. And didn’t pay much attention to those I’d already written.

Then, when I created my current website, I wanted to give people a sample of the whole me, if you know what I mean. Sure, I’m no longer a poet or a playwright, and I’m barely a songwriter anymore, either. But those writings represent me just as much as my novels do.

So I put some of those old works on my website. The best I can tell, people have been reading them. Wonderful!

Now flash forward to a couple of weeks ago when I went to a writers conference in western North Carolina. One class I took was on self-publishing, and it confirmed what I’d been wondering about. There was no reason for me not to gather some of those older materials under a single umbrella and create a small print book. Also, the Kindle version of the same book.

So I did. The first two pictures above are of the print book. The third is the front of the Kindle version. I took the picture of the iris, by the way, and I wish I could’ve used the Kindle front for the print cover.

I’m not really concerned about making money from this book. I’m more concerned about having a positive influence on the people who read it. I also want to use it as a thank you to people who, for example, endorse my novels. Maybe even as a prize for a website-related contest.

Who knows? The possibilities are endless.

Now, you may not have any interest in my older writing–or my current writing, either, for that matter–and that’s fine. I won’t even tease you about not knowing what you’re missing.

But if you are interested, please take a gander at Amazon. The Kindle book is here. The print book is here.

So…what do you think? I’d love to have a comment here. Better yet, a review on Amazon.

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I’ll be back again on Wednesday. If you’d like to receive my posts by email, just go to the top right of this page where it says, “Follow Blog via Email.”

By the way, “On Aging Gracelessly” isn’t my only blog. I use “As I Come Singing” to post lyrics of the Christian songs I’ve written over the last fifty years. Free lead sheets (tune, words, and chords) are available for many of them. Check here to see the list. And uf you’re interested in that blog, please go here.

Best regards,
Roger